Children will be heading back to school before we know it! As a child psychologist, I get asked all the time about how parents can help prepare their children for this time of transition. For some children and parents, back to school can elicit feelings of excitement but for many others, it is a time of anticipation, stress, and worry. Here are some tips to start off a new school year on a positive note:
- Establish a school routine at least 1-2 weeks before the first day back to ease the transition from summer. It is recommended that this include a consistent bedtime, wake time, as well as meal and snack times that are in-sync with school day schedules. Consistency is important for children; it allows children to feel safe and to know what to expect from day-to-day. Research also suggests that elementary aged children should be getting approximately 10-11 hours of sleep each day. Lack of sleep can cause difficulties with attention, learning, and behaviour.
- Take time to visit the school prior to the first day back. For children who may be particularly anxious about starting school, meeting teachers, locating classrooms, lunchrooms, bathrooms etc. can be reassuring. It will also give children an opportunity to ask questions about their new environment. If it isn’t possible to meet the teacher before school starts, it may be helpful to find a photo of the teacher on the school website so that your child knows who to look for on their first day.
- Arrange play-dates with 1 or more of your child’s peers before the start of school. This can help your child feel excited about returning to school, where they will have time to reconnect with old friends.
- Designate and clear a space at home that is devoted for homework and studying. Try to pick a space that is quiet and free from distraction. Developing a consistent schedule for homework completion is also important. Think about when your child is the most alert and focused. For some this may be right after school. However, some children need a break after school and may be better suited to complete homework after dinner. Try to involve your children in making these decisions, the more children feel a sense of control, the more likely they will buy-in and cooperate.
- For some children, saying “good-bye” to a parent at school drop-off can be difficult. It is often helpful for parents and children to establish a good-bye routine at school- a kiss, hug, or secret handshake that brings a special connection between the two of you. Remind your child who will greet them (at home or school) at the end of the day and make sure to be on-time.